Monday, July 30, 2012

RTC (residential treatment facility) Update

Last Wednesday was very strange for me and Brad, and I'm sure Kishawn as well.  We got to the facility with Kishawn and his belongings, and met with his therapists to fill out paperwork and answer her questions.  Although Brad and I had toured the facility before, I asked if we could tour it again with Kishawn.  I wanted him to feel as comfortable as possible during this difficult transition for him.  The tour went well and we were able to eat lunch with him before we left. 

Leaving was difficult for us all.  Tears were shed.  As Brad and I walked back to the car, I got very emotional.  His therapist told us we could call him that evening.  When we talked to him, he seemed upbeat and told us about everything they had done.  That was encouraging.

They request that during the initial intake while they are deciding on a treatment plan, they don't want the children to have any outside contact for 14 days.  

Home life has been different.  We have been moving homes so that has distracted me somewhat from him leaving, however during quiet times I get very reflective and often emotional.  As hard as it is for me, I really believe that this will be a good thing for Kishawn and ALL of our family.  I have faith in the facility and have heard nothing but good things about them and have seen nothing but positive results in the few kids I know personally who have been in their program.  

An interesting turn of events is happening at home.  Because the kids, as infants and young children, had a feeling of chaos and contention so prominent in their lives, it has become ingrained in their beings.  They seem to need it and seek it out.  Jazmine and Kisahwn especially played off of each other.  When one of them was having a difficult time the other could ride their wave and behave well.  However, when that one that was struggling improved, the other would take over the role of chaos maker.  Now that Kishawn is out of the home life picture for a while, Jazmine is definitely taking over that roll.  She is breaking lots of rules, starting arguments and conflicts everywhere she goes, lies nearly every time she talks and is physically hurting her sisters.  I hope that this temporary separation from Kishawn will help Jazmine to figure out what she wants for herself.  Hopefully she will be able to lessen that need to have and/or create chaos in her life.  

Jada is having her typical struggles.  She uses her urine to express her anger and frustration.  She has an extremely difficult if not impossible time following rules and can be downright cruel sometimes.  She (along with Jazmine) is on medication to help her not to feel so angry and rage so much and for her (although it doesn't stop the peeing or rule breaking) it definitely helps her be more kind to others and helps her be much less agitated at the world in general.  

Kiana is doing really well.  For the most part she is happy and cooperative.  She doesn't seem to be affected either way by Kishawn's leaving.  

Makenzie has asked me several times where Kishawn is and it nearly rips my heart out.  It has been relieving for me though to not have to be so on guard about where she is in relation to Kishawn though.

Another note: car rides are substantially more peaceful without Kishawn doing his silent torture to his sisters.  


QueenB said...

Thank you for opening your lives back up in your blog; you are not alone in this journey. Praying for you as you endure this trial. Hard decisions, hard situations. Be strong and courageous, and do not despair.

Elyssium Earth said...

How is it all going, guys? Sarah from Australia : )

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