- My kids stole and hoarded food and toys.
- They would rather do ANYTHING, including staying in their rooms, than do something with the family.
- They thought that THINGS would solve their problems and fill the emptiness they felt inside and became desperate if they didn't get the most recent THING they thought they had to have.
- They fought us on EVERYTHING, especially anything related to school.
- They absolutely could NOT and would NOT interact with other children, especially each other, in an appropriate way.
- They LOVE books and are starting to LOVE reading!
- They no longer look for THINGS to fill the emptiness they feel.
- Although school related things can still call for extreme control battles, they are taking more initiative in seeing that they get their work done on their own.
- We are starting to have short periods of time every now and then when they interact with each other in a healthy way!!
"THINGS aren't important. Family and having parents is important."
They are also starting to develop self-esteem. In the past (and still sometimes now), when they weren't able to do something correctly or when they got corrected they completely shut down. They felt terrible about themselves and their feelings would manifest themselves in their behavior by bullying someone else, getting defiant and disrespectful and throwing fits. I love the little moments that show that they are finally starting to see value in themselves. For example, yesterday and today we took Jazmine to the pool that Brad works at and had her swim with the swim team to see if she liked it. At one point they were diving off the diving blocks and Jazmine didn't get how to do it. When she was finished, her comment about it was, "I'm still working on learning how to dive but I'll get it. I loved swim team."
I don't think anything could make me feel happier than to see my kids finally 'get it'!!!